There are other ways to describe your appealing qualities. There are so many of us who are still in a tizzy trying to figure out “How did she get married?” She got married because marriage material is relative and generally a way for men to control the behavior of women. I learned a long time ago, that what we’ve been taught to believe was marriage material is a farce.
If you find yourself or another woman sounding like a Hotep, repeating homophobic rhetoric, advocating for polygamy because monogamy is unnatural etc, then there’s a chance you’re saying and doing these things to make yourself seem down.
If a man cheats and you immediately point to what his wife did wrong…then you’re hustling backward and playing the Pick Me game. Unwillingness to hold men accountable…for anything Believing women deserve equal rights is not one of them. The women who post the meals they make for themselves with captions like “Your girlfriend could never…” are prime examples of this.īlaming feminism for the destruction of the Black communityĬrack, poverty, racism and slavery are all acceptable places to point the blame when we talk about what has contributed to our challenges as a people. I’m not talking about putting on makeup or dressing up, I’m talking about broadcasting the things you do– or would do– in a relationship because you believe it will attract the man you desire. Whether it’s her attire, sexual behavior or practices, pick mes specialize in regurgitating sexist double standards like “Dress how you want to be addressed” or “No man wants a woman who everybody’s had.” Interestingly enough, when men operate in the same fashion, they never have anything to say.Īttempting to make yourself more appealing for the sake of men Amara, then here are some pitfalls to avoid. If you’re wondering if you’ve ever been or continue to be a pick me or you just want to double-check and make sure you’re not embarrassing yourself on the internet like Ms. For as much as I wanted to ride for Amara, she’s proven herself to be a “pick me.” If you’ve never heard the phrase before, a pick me woman is one who tries to distinguish herself from other women with the intent of making herself appear more appealing to other men.
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